Did I Marry The Right Person ?

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DID I MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON?

During one of our seminars, a woman asked a common question. She said,
'How do I know if I married the right person?'
I noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so I said, 'It
depends. Is that your husband?'
In all seriousness, she answered 'How do you know?'

Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's
weighing on your mind.

Here's the answer.
EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fell in love with
your spouse/partner. You anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and
liked their
idiosyncrasies (unconventional behavior/habit).

Falling in love with your spouse wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely
natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to
DO anything. That's why it's called 'falling' in love... Because it's
happening TO YOU.

People in love sometimes say, 'I was swept off my feet.' Think about the
imagery of that expression.
It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then
something came along and happened
TO YOU.

Falling in love is easy. It's a passive and spontaneous experience. But
after a few years of marriage, the euphoria (excitement) of love fades.
It's the natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone
calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome
(when it happens), and your spouse's
idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts.

The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if you think
about your marriage, you will
notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in
love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.

At this point, you and/or your spouse might start asking, 'Did I marry the
right person?' And as you and your spouse reflect on the
euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience
with someone else. This is when marriages breakdown. People blame their
spouse for their unhappiness and look outside their marriage for
fulfillment.

Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the
most obvious. But sometimes people turn to work,
a hobby, a friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances.

But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your marriage. It lies
within it. I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone
else.
You could.

And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a
few years later. Because (listen carefully to this):

THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT'S
LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND.

SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. It'll NEVER
just happen to you. You can't 'find' LASTING love. You have to 'make' it
day in and day out. That's why we have the expression 'the labor of
love.'
Because it takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it takes
WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make your marriage work.

Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things
you can do (with or without your spouse) to succeed with your marriage.

Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there
are also laws for relationships.
Just as the right diet and exercise program makes you physically stronger,
certain habits in your relationship
WILL make your marriage stronger. It's a direct cause and effect. If you
know and apply the laws, the results are predictable... you can 'make'
love.

Love in marriage is indeed a 'decision'... Not just a feeling.

Remember this always:

'God determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who
you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let go.'

Theme color for your wedding

Found this article on color scheme / theme color....hope it helps :




Every detail of your wedding should reflect your favorites, from gown to shoes, flowers to food. By choosing a color scheme right from the start, your wedding decor will reflect your own personal taste and look beautiful in every detail.

The color scheme you select will set the tone for the day and the events surrounding your wedding. You can also add sophistication or simplicity through the colors you select.

Generally, your color scheme will often carry into the attendants' dresses, table settings, and flowers. See our choices for some wonderful color schemes for weddings.

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All White and Green
o In weddings, as in life, white is not white and green is not green. Each color has a wide variety of hues from which to choose. But the color combination is a winner and gives you lots of choices, from pure white to ivory to the palest of pinks. If your gown is ivory, it's best to select fabrics for napkins and table skirts, as well as flowers, in a complimentary shade. If you've selected a snow white dress, choose snow white flowers.
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Some choices for white flowers are iris, sweet pea, peonies, orchids, lilacs, camellias, daisies, and carnations. For a softer hue, look for roses, tulips, fresia, or lily of the valley.
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When selecting greens, you can go from a fresh lime green to the deep green of camellias or leather leaf ferns. If you want a brighter green, look for leaves from citrus trees, fresh grasses, or green berries.
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Pink and Red With Green
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Use pastel or bright pink flowers and add accents of red. Or go the other way around--red flowers with accents of bright or pale pink. Add tones of lavender or purple from hydrangea. For texture and an loose look, use berries in deep shades of red with green foliage.
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Soft Blush Tones
o Create an elegant statement at your wedding if you choose pale blush colors for flowers and accents. Colors can range from soft pink to soft peach and ivory. Add touches of pearl to accent. Roses are a good choice to enhance a blush color scheme, as there are a myriad of hues of soft-toned roses. Your florist can direct you to the best varieties.
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Red is Always Romantic
o Red roses say "I Love You" and are very appropriate for weddings at any time of the year. Especially in the winter, red looks wonderful with berries and pine greenery and black or red gowns on the attendants. Red is also found in tulips, peonies, gerbera daisies, ranunculus, carnations, lilies, and camellias.
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Nothing But Pink
o For a very romantic and feminine celebration, pink is beautiful. Choose one shade of pink or use many shades from brights to pales. Roses come in a wide range of pinks, or try ranunculas, sweet peas, camellias, hydrangeas, foxglove, snapdragons, dahlias, and bright gerbera daisies.
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Purple, Lime Green, White
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For a dramatic, lively look to your day, choose colors with real punch. Purple, lime green, and bright pinks look crisp and fresh! Hydrangea, roses, lilacs, hyacinth, iris, pansies, stock, delphinium, lisianthus, lavender, and mums grow in shades of purple. Lime greens will add brightness

Just about any beautiful color scheme that you'd use in your home is appropriate for a wedding. Here are some more of our favorite choices for colors for a wedding.

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Yellow
o Summer brides might choose flowers in happy shades of yellow. Remember to choose a range of yellows that has enough contrast to the shade of bridal gown. Spring blossoms include tulips and daffodils. Happy daisies, sunflowers, freesia, ranunculas, dahlias, zinnias, day lilies, buttery roses, and alstromeria offer an array of yellow blossoms. Add a touch of blue hydrangea and beautiful greens for extra interest and texture.
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Green Pairs With Any Other Color
o Using an array of greenery from plants and flowers and some or a few flowers in shades of green, you have the foundation of a beautiful color scheme. You can find shades of light greens in tulip leaves, ivory, hostas, hydrangea, orchids, and green parrot tulips. Find silver greens in eucalyptus. Dark green tones are in ivy, leather leaf ferns, rose leaves, camellia leaves, and magnolia leaves. Leave the greens alone or add subtle shades of your favorite colors.
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Shades of Blue
o Blue has long been one of the favorite colors for interior decorating, so it just seems natural that brides would want to include blue in their wedding color scheme. This would be especially appropriate for outdoor weddings where the sky or water would be an important element in the setting. Add the cool, serene tones of blues with cornflowers, hydrangea, delphinium, iris, or agapanthus. Use shades of pink or add bright greens for interest.
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Passionate Purple
o Purple bridesmaids' dresses look elegant and regal, but beware! Dark purple flowers can get "lost" in a dark room. Choose flowers in brighter, lighter shades of purple so that they show off as you want. It might be a good idea to "test" the color before you make the final decision to have purple as a dominant color in your decor.
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Black and White
o For the ultimate in sophistication, dress the bridesmaids in beautiful black gowns and the men in handsome black tuxedos. The bride can wear snow white or any shade of ivory or candlelight. Add sparkle if desired, or stay with the simple elegance. Flowers can be all white or any tone that enhances the sophisticated look. Table decorations can be silver or gold, or any color of the rainbow.

Beautiful dresses and flowers can be found in so many colors that you're bound to create a color scheme that expresses your personality. With everything coordinated, you'll have a beautiful wedding celebration.

my oficemate....bbq time

(Flowers to all my collegues..Luv u all")

ni ade mkn2x ofis kiteorg buat..mknan punyer lah banyak..smpai aku kn bawak blk lebihan (ayam panggang+ikan kembung+ikan pari)...smuan yer dh siap diperap..ape lagi masak lah kt umh..cm yg ikan kmbung tu aku pass kat dess,takot peti sejuk x ckp...ehhehehhe...tp actually suke ade buat events mcm ni..sbb merapat lagi silaturahim ngn staff yg lain....lps ni kiteorg de gang plan nk gi genting"...GENTING HERE WE COME......

My Wedding Updates

Tinggal lagi 3 bulan lagi mnjelang hari aku nak jadi raja sehari..emm emm cam xcaye lah nak kahwin,perasaan tu mcm2x ade hapy,takot n sedih...huhuhu...citer psl persiapan x reti lah nak ckp camner,macam ok je so far about 60% dah settle...My checklist are:

1.Borang kahwin-Dah amik cm nak proceed agenda seterusnyer...

2.Wedding Kad-Dah ditempah dlm 550 pieces,means my guest will be around 1100pax.Bile kad dah dapat,aku nak bt list guest names untuk diagih agihkan.

3.Barang Hantaran-Semua dah beli xcept choc n fruits,that things nak dekat majlis bt gi beli.Untuk gubahan aku dah cr org nak soh gubahkan using fresh flower.

4.Wedding Cake n Cupcakes-Smua dah ditempah.

5.Souvenier-VVIP souvenier dah ader xcept for guest,i need to find those things at Bandung n Jakarta by nx weeks.

6.Baju Kahwin/Nikah + Make-up + Kanopi-Smua dah booked,cm baju nak gi ukur dlm 1 bln before mjlis

*Sekarang ni lps solat jekk,mintak doa smoga majlis kahwin aku berjln dgn lancar & selamat.InsyaAllah..Amin...

Virgo person...like me :)

Virgo: the Virgin

If you are born between August 24 to September 22 you are a Virgo. The constellation of Virgo is August 11 to September 17.

Virgoans are intelligent, analytical, critical, modest, meticulous, and fussy. They may find it difficult to be outgoing and assured. Many of their positive characteristics may never have a chance to be shown. Vigoans excel in arguments and debates, bringing up facts and presenting them in such a logical and clear way that they usually win over most opponents.

Most Virgoan women with their careers don't have a problem balancing their lives and making time for partner, children and home life. Virgoans won't ever find it difficult to express themselves

Febuary & Birthday

FEBUARY

Well, let talk's about febuary, when febuary is around, what up on ur mind?..Absolutely "Valentine Day"..huh.. means "L.O.V.E".. and my beloved fiancee b'day is on this febuary...(22.02.1983)

So on his bday,What present should i give to my fiancee..??x tahu nak bg ape...penat pikir!!,perfume dh bg,baju dh bg,shavers...maybe jeans.....kot this time...tgk pd budget..la..

Now aku nak nyanyikan lagu tuk Mr Aepole.."Hepy Bday to u...Hepy Bday to u...Hepy Bday to " Shaiful Anwar"..Hepy Bday to u....."
Do take care of urself n hopefully be success in ur career..Luv u so muchh...

me n c's ina...

Element : Water & Fashion

Which element are u?

(Me-Water)

Water is the element of change. The people of water are capable to adapting to many things. They have a deep sense of community and love that holds them together through anything. Water is usually related to being good, impressionable, gentle, sympathetic, sensitive, and selfless.

Be like water my friends like me.hahahah..hah.Water can flow softly or it can crash and devistate.Put water in a bottle and it becomes a bottle, put water in a jug and it will become a jug, So be a water my friends"...

What Fashion are u??

Now we're talking bout fashion.Is it i too eager bout fashion??emm.. i think not...
but mostly my collection is 'zara',the design is so chic n simple..